“There is one quality which one must possess to win, and that is a definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning desire to possess it.” – Napoleon Hill
Are you trying to win at a game you didn’t even know you were playing? It can feel that way when you are working at a business without defined parameters.
Loreli Gilmore offered to babysit her ex-boyfriend’s daughter. When she met him at the door, he asked again if she was sure she was okay keeping the daughter. She answered, “I managed to find Uno and Checkers, and Battleship and most of the pieces of Candyland. Which I figure, we can mix together to create a fabulous new game, Candyship Battleland. War never tasted so good!”
Too often, we are shoving too many things together and hoping we can pull something out at the end that will not only work, but will bring success.
If you want to win – you have to define your game. After you define your game you will be able to create a plan to cross the finish line.
Three Building Blocks to Winning
1. Have a Definitive Purpose
You have to understand what you want to achieve, not esoteric ideas, but laser fine focused goals. You can want to create world domination, but that expands a wide amount of territory which makes it more of a challenge to create steps to reach. But, you can want to develop the go-to expertise in defining your goals so that the whole world turns to you to learn how.
If you have a wide-reaching goal, hone the focus until you reach your definitive purpose.
2. Develop a Knowledge of Personal Wants
Napolean Hill believed in the connection between thinking and manifestation. If you want something, you think on it until you believe it. Once you believe it then you find a way to achieve it.
When it comes to personal wants, you need to know more about the wants and what it will take to get there. Once you know these two things, you can determine if your want is real, or if it’s just fantasy.
True personal wants are driven by a desire to have them and not just a wish they’ll show up.
3. Foster a Burning Desire to Reach Your Goals
You have to want it to win it.
We cried out that chant all the way to the ballgames when I was on the high school team. We also added, “And we want it bad.” The words were only the beginning (or maybe the end). We had to also invest the time, energy, and focus into the practices which prepared us for the game.
You have to foster a burning desire that pushes you beyond where you are to where you want to be. The desire needs to be so powerful it can elevate you above the naysayers (because they will show up), take you through the struggles (because they will show up as well), and drive you to the finish line when you want to stop(because you won’t get there if you don’t go).
What is a Definitive Desire?
It’s simple. You define your definitive desire. It grows up form a goal you believe to be most important and most valuable to you.
It can’t be written by anyone else.
It can’t be defined by another person’s journey.
It can’t be seeded from the desires of others.
It is you – deep down, hunger for reaching a place or purpose.
- Think of long-term big. It’s not something you can accomplish in a few months.
- Develop unwavering focus. It’s an end point that doesn’t change despite the twist and turns stirred up in the journey.
- Imagine uninhibited success. It’s driven by a belief that you are guaranteed success (and if you believe, pursue, and keep going then you are).
- Look without limits. It’s set up by seeing beyond the limits of resources, time, or current circumstances.
What matters most to you? When you answer that one question you are well on your way to understanding your definitive purpose.
Part One of Your Building Blocks to Winning:
How do you write a definite purpose statement?
Have you ever attempted to take a journey without knowing where you’re going?
We played a game when I was in high school. Two people would sit in the driver’s seat of a car. One would be blindfolded and holding on to the steering wheel. The other would not be blindfolded and would control the break and gas.
The others in the car would should out directions when the car arrived at an intersection. On more than one occasion, we ended up running over curbs or in a ditch.
I didn’t say it was a good game.
Despite the chaotic travel the game produced, there is at least one person out there who goes through life in a similar manner. You trust someone else to give the journey the gas it needs or to apply the gas when necessary. You steer blindfolded, allowing others to dictate your directions.
Or worse, you are in the car all alone, blindfolded and lost.
You have to define your destination if you are going to arrive. Your definitive desire marks the end point for your journey (or at least this leg of the journey).
What You Need to Write Your Definitive Desire: 6 Questions to Ask
The truth of your definitive desire is that it’s yours. There really is no secret formula or magic wand for defining what it is you desire most of all, but here are some questions you can ask to move you along the path.
- What would you regret most if you died before you accomplished the task?
- What would you like others to remember about you?
- What would you miss if you didn’t get to have it or do it?
- What really matters to you?
- Why does it matter to you?
- What are you willing to do to have what matters most?
Think through these questions. Write out some responses and then think some more. The more you think bout your definite desire, the more it will become clear.
What Will Cloud Your Definite Desire Focus?
Once you lay out your definitive desire, you have to remain focused on it. There are plenty of things and people that will try to get in the way. You need to be prepared for those distractions so you can block them, ignore them, or go around them.
What others tell you must be done.
This is their expectations and you aren’t obligated to their expectations. When it comes to your definitive desire, you are the only one that gets a vote.
What your education dictates as a direction.
Your degree furthered your knowledge and experience. It does not, however, get a say in your definitive desire.
What obligations demand you must do.
You will have to do what you have to do, but that doesn’t mean what you have to do is a vote in your definitive desire. Sometimes you have to find ways to pursue your definitive desire despite (or within) your obligations.
You have the power. You can live in purpose and on purpose. When you grab hold of your definitive desire, you will be one step closer to changing your world.
What specific actions will you take to focus on your definitive purpose?
Challenge: Take some time to work through the questions and points. Write out one or two ideas for your definitive purpose.
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Kathryn Lang believes it is simple, and as an award-winning author and natural-born hopesmith, she shares tips on how to find your why, pursue your purpose, and live a bold, intentional life – always with a dash of twisted encouragement.